I got an email from my mom in response to some of the things I've written here, and I wanted to clarify some things and share some of it. I think it was prompted by this post
Mom says:
"Your room was so full of toys it was hard to keep clean. We had floor to ceiling shelves full of toys and games and the lower shelves were all full of Playschool, Fisher Price, etc. You had a full kitchen and every accessory. I'm sorry you don't remember. I was so excited every time you opened a present. I tried to resist the temptation, knowing that it wasn't important for you to have everything and that you should have better character if I didn't buy you everything...but you loved surprises. Maybe you don't remember everything because I didn't go over and over and didn't take lots and lots of pictures. But, then again, I can't remember much about childhood either...just the highlights."
In my post, I wasn't really talking about my younger childhood. I don't really remember much about living with Mom and Dad together: they got divorced when I was 5. I have a few vague recollections of the house we lived in - It was wonderful. I have no idea of this was true, but I loved it.
The stairs led up to our huge toy room (I say huge, but am probably entirely wrong. I also thought the hill behind the house was huge until I drove past it when I was older. It was barely even a hill). We didn't even have to keep it as clean as our bedroom, because we could close the door and no one would have to see it! You don't know how exciting that part was?! Mom made us clean our rooms all the time (when we were older. I assume it's true when we were younger too?) I remember playing up there constantly. And there was a bookshelf at the top of the stairs that had some really goofy contact paper on it. Maybe batman or superman or something? I think it was blue.
Anyway... I remember Christy (my sister) standing on the bed with her friend singing Maneater. I remember my dad spanking my brother. I remember rolling down the hill in the back with our neighbors. I remember that the older neighbors next door were just like grandparents. I remember the police car that brought my brother home after someone backed into him while he was riding his bike on the sidewalk (He was okay, but his bike wasn't) I remember a couple other little things, (some of them might not be true though. My memory does funny things to me. Sometimes I remember things that didn't happen) but mostly I was trying to say that I don't remember the toys I had in the memories that I do have. I have an overall impression of being content.
As I grew up, little things started to stay with me. I remember more toys I did have and things that I wanted, but didn't get. But really I think that's just because I was older. I don't think it was because I was denied anything (that I needed). I always knew that my mom was there. I had a lot of really bad things happen, and I don't think I would have had the strength to be who I am without her influence. My sister blames her for some of those bad things but she is just human like the rest of us. People make mistakes. She drives me crazy most of the time, and I try not to write about it too much, because all moms drive their children crazy sometimes and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I love her. I'm trying to think of the words to express my thoughts here, but all I can think is "She's my Mom" And I guess that says it all.
So anyway, Mom, I don't blame you for the crap, but I thank you for the good stuff. And since we waited til the middle of June for our Mother's Day Tea, I guess this is my Mother's Day post.
Posted by ktjrdn
at 22:17 CDT