We had to schedule our new truck for it's 15,000 maintenance. Not a big deal, but since it's 4WD, it's gong to cost a couple hundred. When we dropped it off this morning, Rob explained what they were going to do and why it would be that expensive.
I've been kind of down lately. Money is VERY tight. We've almost got our refrigerator paid off. We got it on 6 months no interest, but only if it's paid off in that time. 6 months is almost up, but that extra $200 a month is relaly hurting us. Stupid old refrigerator picked a crappy time to die. Cause we needed a new car too. The old Regal just didn't have room for Anya's non-pumpkin rear-facing car seat. The other car has no air-conditioning. It just wasn't working out. We could have bought a cheaper vehicle, but comeday we might have more kids, so we don't want to have a vehicle that isn't prepared for that. Which means our car payment doubled. We spent a lot of money this summer on various things for the house and most of our progress on our debt when bye-bye. All our credit card debt is at 0% interest, so all the money we pay every month is strictly paying down the total, but it's just not happening fast enough. At this rate, it'll be 30 years before we make enough money to move to a bigger house. (sigh)
So when he told me it would be a couple hundred I got a little depressed and said "Goddammit. Why can't we ever get ahead? We keep having all these little necesary expenses and we never have any money" He proceeded to make me cry. He says there is no point in talking about it when there's nothing we can do about it. We decided to take the truck in, so why waste his time bitching about it. We made a decision (to spend the money) so I should quit unloading all of this carp on him. Don't I know he's already worrying about it? Why should he have to listen to me bitch and whine about it when there's nothing he can do? If I want to have a constructive discussino that's okay, but he doesn't want to listen to me whine.
I hate men! Sometimes, I just need to talk. To vent some of my frustration. Normally I know better than to try to do it with him, but I was feeling particularly crappy this morning. I don't want him to solve my problems, although that would be nice. I just want him to listen and acknowledge that it's bothering me. Maybe even tell me it's okay and that we'll get through it together. And not to add to my frustration by telling me he doesn't want to listen to me. I know that already. That's part of my frustration! ArrrrrgggggggggGGGGG!!!!!!!!
I wish I could get him to understand. No, that's not true. I think he does understand. He just thinks it's irrational and a waste of time to talk about things that you're not going to/can't do anything about, so he wants me to accept it and not bother him. I wish I had some friends around here...
I don't usually discuss my occasional issues with my husband here, since so much of our families read this, but I need to bitch to someone, and this is what I've got. Sorry.