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Thursday, 22 March 2007

I have the answer....

... it's 42!

Uh no, that was a different question.

I asked to Rob about it last night. His reply? "I wish you'd shut up about the damn birthday party already. Let me know when you've figured it out." humph. So I talked to him some more about it (that'll teach him). He helped me realize that I'm over-obesessing. See there's this normal mom level of obsession about your kids first (sniff sniff. 1 year odl!) birthday. Then, about a mile past that is my level of obsession. No one else in the family works this hard to be so accomadating. They have a party and if you can't make it, you see them later or maybe not. whatever. I need to stop trying to run myself crazy over it. So, I'm having a party at my house. If the weather is nice, we can all have lunch on the deck. If not, we'll go to a buffet place or something. It will be fine. If you can't make it, I will be ~~absolutely crushed and assume that you don't love me/my baby enough~~ ~~worry about how not having a family around that loves her will affect Anya~~ ~~slide into a deep depression~~ fine. Just fine. It will be a happy day. There will be cake. I will not drive myself crazy. I will try not to drive anyone else crazy along the way.

btw: My house is not large. The yard is quite spacious though. If it's good weather, we can fit quite a few people outside. Cross your fingers for good weather for us.

Posted by ktjrdn at 08:41 CDT

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Thursday, 22 March 2007 - 11:35 CDT

Name: "jill"

the most important thing is the cake. a few snapshots of cake on the face and you're set. I think you are starting to have a better feel for things. I tell you this--kids care about birthday parties from the time they realize all the attention is on them until they no longer want attention on them--this varies from 2-4 up to 9-13--whenever they start getting embarrassed. Later on they'll want a few friends for a movie or something. This being said--you have a cushion right now with Anya--use it. Ally may already care and in that case--you have her birthday on a day you choose or that works for you. You can always celebrate her birthday with presents the original day of her birth--she will get presents at the party from everyone else--so there will be no feeling left out. Also--don't go out of your way to feed everyone in the neighborhood-just have ice cream and/or cake--I've experienced both and let me tell you--it's much easier for little kids to just rip open presents, smear cake and be done. There's nothing worse than sitting and waiting for everyone to finish their hotdogs/whatever so that the kid can get on with the gifts--especially distant relatives which think it's important--but not that important. They are there for the "party" watching the kid blow out the candles, etc. It has been my experience that the cake doesn't get eaten if you've just had lunch. Save yourself a lot of time and trouble now while you can. Also, combining all the little friends with the extended family is horrible. One kid plus relatives all screaming for attention is one thing. Add in a bunch of other kids you can't force to do anything is a nightmare. Bottom line--your kids will appreciate the fact that you took time to invite everyone and get them cake, take pictures, a gift. Everything else will fade into the background. Try to enjoy it--pretty soon they'll be slamming doors and having illicit phone conversations late at night...

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Sunday, 25 March 2007 - 10:31 CDT

Name: "Jenny"
Home Page: http://blogs.chron.com/mamadrama/

All you need is a cake, a tarp (for the mess she'll make with the cake) and her parents. In the end you're the only one who'll remember it. :)

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